I'm a firm believer in the idea that the world is arranged in a near perfect way, and that there's little point in trying to be clever about things. Our best response to adverse situations is to analyse them, and find out why the situation is the way it is, and why it is in fact due to some higher order. Once we understand the underlying mechanism, we're in a position to navigate whatever situation we find difficult at the moment.
This led me to my theory of women, which explains why women are hardwired to do and say crazy things from time to time. There's a reason for why women behave this way, and there's a proper response to it. Understanding this makes it all the more easy to respond correctly, and it makes the craziness a lot less unnerving when it happens. On final analysis, we discover that the arrangement that nature (aka God) has put into place is pretty much perfect.
Another thing that many men find suboptimal in life is our sexuality. Leonardo da Vinci famously wrote in one of his notes that he resented the way his penis would readily rise to the challenge when there was no need for it and stubbornly refuse to rise when he desired it the most.
There's no way to will the penis into action. Even in situations where everything is laid out perfectly for a romantic rump in the hay, the penis can suddenly decide to take a nap. On the face of it, it's hardly a perfect arrangement. However, on closer analysis, we see that this too has a perfectly good explanation.
For one, the arrangement promotes fidelity. A couple will develop routines that work. Sex with a steady partner is more reliable than sex with random strangers. This in turn promotes strong family relationships and a secure environment for children to grow up in. Children that grow up with strong family ties are more likely to thrive and prosper, which is ideal for the success of the family and its legacy.
But couples can fall out of their routines due to illness, work related stress or financial troubles, and they may find it hard to reignite their passions. Boredom and a desire for adventure can also get in their way. Men are programmed to be physically attracted to fertile young women. Women are programmed to desire strong male personalities. It's easy to be tempted, and to let this grow into a resentment towards our partner. One thing leads to another, and the magic is gone. The marriage bed becomes a cold and lonely place.
The way to deal with this is to acknowledge the situation and make an effort to rectify it. If the problem is related to practical matters, we need to fix them so that the house is once again in order. If the problem is related to boredom or a desire for adventure and conquest, this must be dealt with sensibly. A desire for some other person must be recognized as a fantasy that shouldn't be acted upon. The fantasy is usually a result of discontent with life in general rather than a genuine desire for a new partner. Discontent must in turn be dealt with sensibly and constructively.
Having properly analysed the source of our discontent, most couples will agree that the only way forward is to reignite the spark, but as Leonardo da Vinci pointed out, simply willing a situation isn't enough to make it happen. One thing is to make a good analysis of a relationship problem. Another thing entirely is to act on it. Once a couple has fallen out of their routines, their routines may no longer work, and some may conclude from this that the situation is hopeless. However, such a conclusion overlooks an important aspect of Leonardo da Vinci's observation.
All healthy men get strong and reliable erections during deep sleep. These erections have nothing to do with sexual fantasies. They are not caused by any romantic or erotic situation. To the man, they are pointless in that they seem to serve no purpose. But this is only the case seen from the perspective of the man. The erection isn't there purely for him, it's there just as much for the woman. The penis is an organ attached to the man, but it belongs just as much to his wife. Once this is understood, it's clear that nature (aka God) did in fact arrange for a perfect solution to relationship problems. All a couple needs to do in order to reignite their spark after a dry spell is for the woman to make it clear that her man's next deep sleep erection is for her to enjoy.
If the problem turns out to be that the reliable erections don't materialize, the likely source of the problem is weak Kegel muscles. The solution is then to incorporate Kegel exercises into our daily fitness routines. My own experience with is that this greatly increases the strength and frequency of nightly erections.
There's no need for elaborate séances or voodoo magic in order to reignite a flame. All that's needed is for the man to give his wife the care and affection she needs to feel secure in their relationship, and for the woman to make herself ready for him. When the man wakes up with his usual pointless erection, he rolls over to her side of the bed, and they make love.
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